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Why
do we shudder at the sight of one buff-bodied BJJer choking
his partner into submission? What
is it that makes a judo strangle such an intrinsically sexual
enterprise? This is one
guy's take on why we gay BJJers and judoka prize this group
of spectacular submission techniques above the rest.
First up, bondage is quite a draw for most gay grapplers;
chokes and strangles indulge that interest. It’s a pretty
powerful experience to feel restricted or restrained in any
way, but especially this way. We tend to relish the sensation
of being tightly trussed up...
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For
the guy on top, it’s just as arousing to hold someone in total control,
possessing them physically in every way possible. And what greater
form of bondage can there be than when you start taking over a person's
vital functions? What's
more, this bondage can be incredibly subtle and done in public, even
during club practice sessions.
Submission
and dominance are also things that many gay BJJers and judoka relish.
For a bottom, relinquishing all bodily control to their grappling
buddy is an ultimate form of surrender and trust. Think of the judo
player, enjoying the heady, homoerotic sensation he feels when he
is being completely confined in sankaku-jime, his entire face buried
in Tori’s cotton-clad groin. Think of the Brazilian jiu-jitsu
guy, mounted from behind by a dude determined to choke him out,
holding him fast while slowly performing a sensuous rear naked choke.
This is a moment of true hyper-reality, a moment when you give yourself
over to the desires of your lover for a time, showing him that you
possess a trust in him that extends to your
very existence. Intense!
For a top, all this trust is something he loves to see in his partner.
It’s good to know that the other guy trusts him enough to let
him take control of something so vital. He also wants to feel a
person's total surrender to his greater physical strength. He loves
watching the struggle, humiliation, and panic of his partner. The
reason that he enjoys it is that he knows his buddy deeply craves
these things.
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Oxygen
deprivation effects also attract a lot of gay Brazilian jiu-jitsu
and judo players. When you have a lower amount of oxygen available
(hypoxia) or no oxygen (anoxia) you start to feel somewhat
dreamlike and lightheaded. This can be very pleasurable for
some folks. Depending on the guy, he will enjoy different
levels of this. Some dudes like to routinely be ‘sent
to sleep’ and other people only like to experience a
slight lightheaded feeling from it.
Finally, panic and risk are sometimes elements that a gay
grappler craves and can enjoy. Both the top and bottom guy
will generally only enjoy this if they feel fairly secure
that they will come through it energized and healthy, though.
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As a matter
of fact, many practitioners get the same feeling from breath control
in BJJ and judo that others derive from playing tag - a rush of
pure adrenaline, and a feeling of being a bit out of control for
awhile.
Final Word - IMPORTANT!
Having said all of this stuff, it's really essential that activities
of the kind described above be consensual, and that both verbal
(e.g. yelling, 'I submit!') and nonverbal (e.g. tapping out) cues
are in place before commencing any type of erotic choke play.
Oh, yeah - and make sure to check out the links below for some way-cool
guides to resuscitating a blacked-out partner.
Web
Links:
Emergency
Care for Chokeholds (Opens
in a separate window.)
Principles
of Judo Choking Techniques
(Opens in a separate window.)
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